The Twinning of Anger and Sadness
What does twining mean? In this post I am referring to a union of these two emotions, anger and sadness. We are living in times of turbulent unrest. Much of the world has been experiencing this for a long time. Now we are watching the US with mixed emotions. Here, in the US we are seeing an escalation of “what has been there all along.” The hatred and injustice can no longer be hidden. The twining of anger and sadness is evident.
Underneath these unbalanced emotions lies fear. It sits at the core of distress wearing many faces. I will not be discussing fear in this post but rather focus on two big players that rise up from fear and that is anger and sadness. Anger can be as small as frustration or as large as rage. Sadness can be an uncomfortable tug at the heart or as deep as grief. I will use the words anger and sadness to streamline the message.
Mixed Emotions
Humans are an expression of many mixed emotions. This creates confusion leading to further unrest, denial, increased anger causing the creation of misinformation. Any cycle of information begins to spin and grow in the mind. When the information and unrest is left unchecked long enough the energy will effect the immediate environment.
Regardless of appearances, I sense we are all seeking clarity and peace. How one goes about it will undoubtedly have a direct impact on the outcome. In some form or fashion, we all need to come to the understanding that what is going on around us began within us. To make change sustainable we must begin within right where it all began.
Slow Down and Ask Yourself
What are you thinking, saying, and what are you feeling the majority of your day? Are you caring for your body, mind and spirit? Slow down enough to get a sense of your whole self. Pause or meditate so you can see some of the multitude of thoughts crossing your mind. Practice being a witness rather than judge and/or jury. We all need to quiet ourselves often enough to hear the body speak directing us to greater health. Still the mind often to hear the whisper of Divine Guidance. Once you hear, apply appropriate action.
The Twining of Anger and Sadness:
When an individual is very angry, the energy of sadness is often overlooked. The same holds true when a person is very sad. Anger is not recognized due to the focus being placed on sadness or depression. When one emotion is dominant, other vibrations are overlooked.
Viewing emotions from an elemental point of view, anger is fire. Some of the expressions that describe anger are, fiery, hot head, burning with rage, explosive temper and so on. Sadness is the water element. It too has its plethora of expressions, a few of them being drowning in sorrow and a pool of tears.
Anger
To look at emotions in relation to the elements it is easy to see how too much fire can and will burn us out. If we use excessive fire we can hurt ourselves and others. We need our fire. This element plays an important role and not just with anger. However, since this post is addressing anger, I will say, anger can clear up misunderstandings and initiate a healthy boundary. When the fire element is expressed as passion it brings light to our life and direction to our creativity. Balance the fire element with good communication. The twining of anger and sadness calls for balance.
Add the Water and Earth Element
A feeling of being understood and loved with a balanced water element creates positive change. The earth element adds a healthy sense of being grounded and keeps life moving along. This blend and balance of the elements allow us to grow and expand our conscious horizons. Add the air element for clear thinking, emotional intelligence and emotional maturity.
Know What to Add to Bring Balance
When anger is out of balance it is too hot for mental clarity so allow the water element to help you. You can drink water, take a shower, allow tears to fall or place a cool damp cloth at the back of your neck. These examples tame the fire within so a healthy release is possible.
If you find yourself expressing anger with excessive fire energy go deeper. Is sadness present as well? If so, what message does this energy want to convey? I believe we desire happiness, peace and sense of good will. There are times when the denied energies standing in the way of happiness must move. Life gives us opportunities to grow. There is nothing wrong with getting angry once in awhile.
To remain in a state of anger over long periods of time is detrimental to one’s health and is especially hard on the liver and nervous system. This is true for those who anger easily. It also speaks volumes about what you are not willing to learn. Again, remember the twining of anger and sadness. This can be helpful when seeking understanding and balance.
Sadness
When you find yourself drowning in sorrow, the sadness can pull you into a state of depression. The heaviness can have a detrimental affect. If you reach out to help someone in this state make certain you have a healthy boundary and a clear vision of what can and cannot be done.
Anyone who remains too long in the throws of so much sadness can extinguish their flame and passion for life. Deep lasting sadness includes feelings of being unable to move. Realize there is anger underneath all the sadness. You can use the fire element to rekindle the flame, create some heat and evaporate some of the heaviness brought about by too much sadness.
Remember, we do not want to dry up the water with excessive fire. The aim is to lighten the load with the realization of what lies underneath the sadness. Turn on some tribal drum music and dance, take a walk, pick up your pace as you go. This works wonders for igniting some fire, then ask yourself, ” Am I Angry? What makes me angry?” The twinning of anger and sadness is being discovered.
Harmony
Harmony between anger and sadness is the realization that they are both present. This awareness brings a rise in consciousness that can and will lead to an expression closer to the bigger truth. Seeing more of what disrupts your inner peace brings you closer to it and closer to solutions.
Anger and sadness entwined. Unwind the mystery of your emotions through the process of honoring them and looking deeper into what you are feeling. We are complex beings, I agree. We are intelligent as a species. Our intelligence must expand to include emotional intelligence. For this to happen every one of us must take on the responsibly of knowing thyself better than before.
Emotional Beings
We are emotional beings. Our emotions say a lot about who we have become. If your emotions are unable to move or move with extreme velocity, there is “work” to be done. If you are confused by how you feel take the time to begin understanding yourself. It appears many people spend a great deal of time questioning the motives of others. This leaves little time to really understand themselves.
Come to know thyself. Develop emotional maturity and emotional intelligence. A light will shine bringing an understanding of what is happening within you and around you. The path of mastering your consciousness includes understanding your emotions and realigning with your own personal power.
I hope this is helpful. The world needs emotionally intelligent humans as well as a rise in compassion, love and understanding. The better you understand yourself the greater the wave of positive change. I thank you for doing your part no matter how big or small. It all matters, we all matter. We are matter. Check out either of my online courses to put some wind under your wings so you may find your right path.
Love, Astara
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